23 July 2009

無法抵達的抵達

 

因為要回家了,想買一些飾品送給太太,在網上找了很久看到滿意的。今天叫她去看看,討論了很久,她最後說她不喜歡,拉倒不買了。我其實當時是有情緒的,我告訴她我有點失望,但是也不想要買一些她不喜歡的東西。她說她也不要假假的說她很喜歡那飾品,但是她感謝我的心意。我們都把我們的感覺情緒表達出來。

 

在洗澡的時候,在重新想這件事情。覺得這不就是無法抵達的抵達嗎?買飾品送太太這件事情,在實際事務的操作上沒有抵達。但是在表示心意上面,我們既真實的表達了自己的心意和感激,也真實的承認我們對於欣賞品味上的差異。

 

其實,有時候抵達不了真的是一件令人興奮的事。無法抵達,有時候才是抵達了。

 

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4 comments:

  1. 嗯嗯嗯....原來...
    不過能這樣子彼此坦承自己的心底想法...真的是不簡單的抵達喔
    我越來越羨慕你們夫妻倆囉!!!哈哈哈

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  2. 哈哈,其實不只是這樣的簡單,你們沒有看到很多很多的內心掙扎...這些才是真正的考驗

    人生沒有這樣多快快樂樂的生活下去(happily ever after)的結局,這可能只是過程罷了。或者很多過程你沒有看到。

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  3. My mom bought me a bag and a top for me from Penang...although in the past I have already told her not to buy such things for me (what she thinks is great, is NOT my style). I decided to tell her straight that I cannot accept the gifts because even if I accept them, it is a pretense. I will not wear them or use them. She is very disappointed...but I'd rather let her know than to have the same things happen again and again(although it DID happen before...).

    Anyway, finally she satisfied herself by giving me a cap which she really knows I will not reject, cos it is not too feminine and fancy. And then she is a peace and happily kept the things she thought is great but rejected by her daughter, for herself to use...ben lai jiu shi ta xi huan de ma. :P

    I did feel paiseh, and did consider should I pretend pretend just to make her happy, but I know that will make future matters worse......btw, that reminds me to wear the cap at least once for her to see!

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  4. guess som things r in common

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