tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post7320687280250215215..comments2023-06-18T23:25:49.743+08:00Comments on 轉世新加坡的台客: 生病的姿態忠 Chonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02260178086336121164noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-79929050819909441802008-05-20T05:12:52.000+08:002008-05-20T05:12:52.000+08:00把這本書看完,順便介紹大家。Psychology of the Sickbed by J. H. v...把這本書看完,順便介紹大家。Psychology of the Sickbed by J. H. van den Berg, Ph.D. (中文翻譯是《病床邊的溫柔》<br /><br /><a href="http://clang13.multiply.com/reviews/item/8" rel="nofollow">http://clang13.multiply.com/reviews/item/8</a>ang clhttp://clang13.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-57590894050443926382008-05-18T03:11:20.000+08:002008-05-18T03:11:20.000+08:00看到親人受苦,或被親人看到自己在苦痛中,的確是一件難受的事情。看到親人受苦,或被親人看到自己在苦痛中,的確是一件難受的事情。ang clhttp://clang13.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-79684834127179036862008-05-17T23:30:57.000+08:002008-05-17T23:30:57.000+08:00是好像这样哦。我现在想起以前我爸爸有时也会那样,似亲似远的。到有一次较严重时,晚上他不喜欢我看到他的...是好像这样哦。我现在想起以前我爸爸有时也会那样,似亲似远的。到有一次较严重时,晚上他不喜欢我看到他的折磨,我偷偷盖被偷看。Emily QQhttp://qing47.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-28386474377909458962008-05-17T20:59:42.000+08:002008-05-17T20:59:42.000+08:00我看到老師在 "Psychology of the Sickbed" by J....我看到老師在 "Psychology of the Sickbed" by J.H. van den Berg 的中譯本《病床邊的溫柔》裡寫的序,對比他現在生病的狀況,蠻有趣的。<br /><br />"病人臥病,世界變得很不一樣,有些時候很想與人親近,有些時候又希望孤獨,甚至有些病人會很焦躁,有些病人會因疾病拖累家人而有罪咎感,可說是不一而足。"pp7,心靈工坊,2001年ang clhttp://clang13.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-66210088651517535332008-05-17T17:53:11.000+08:002008-05-17T17:53:11.000+08:00: ): )ang clhttp://clang13.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-53325081151368252042008-05-17T16:51:22.000+08:002008-05-17T16:51:22.000+08:00I agree. Sometimes when we talk to ourself, the vo...I agree. Sometimes when we talk to ourself, the voice is produced in ourself. Everything is flowing internally. When we talk to someone, it flows from inside out, reprocess through outside world by getting opinions, responses, and we regenerate different outcome and then we look at the outcome and decide again, then let it flows back to ourself; by the time maybe we could feel the feeling differently. Emily QQhttp://qing47.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-58374628752500526702008-05-17T16:18:31.000+08:002008-05-17T16:18:31.000+08:00這是一些諮商(就是輔導)理論的看法。當然,一種米養百種人,不一定每一種理論都適用於每個人。
所謂:...這是一些諮商(就是輔導)理論的看法。當然,一種米養百種人,不一定每一種理論都適用於每個人。<br /><br />所謂:盡信書不如無書。ang clhttp://clang13.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-6449158474644543152008-05-17T08:30:13.000+08:002008-05-17T08:30:13.000+08:00我一直都认为他们只是想借耳朵倾述而已,
你的见解是我没想过的。:)我一直都认为他们只是想借耳朵倾述而已,<br />你的见解是我没想过的。:)Hor juniorhttp://horjunior.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-42364119255106365472008-05-17T03:07:42.000+08:002008-05-17T03:07:42.000+08:00ya, i think its quite stress for u to handle thing...ya, i think its quite stress for u to handle things in 2 diff world at a time. long term prob need to hav long term plan. may be u wanna take a longer leave.<br /><br />imho, jus do a thing at a time.ang clhttp://clang13.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-57385132054989557232008-05-17T02:59:58.000+08:002008-05-17T02:59:58.000+08:00我是認為他們需要別人聽他們講話。前面講話是指被照顧的人,不一定是照顧者。有時候他們只是需要別人聽他們...我是認為他們需要別人聽他們講話。前面講話是指被照顧的人,不一定是照顧者。有時候他們只是需要別人聽他們講話,他們從跟你講話,而真正能夠聽到自己的看法。ang clhttp://clang13.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-13496236920606915642008-05-17T01:50:38.000+08:002008-05-17T01:50:38.000+08:00About sickness: I went to a hospital in China that...About sickness: I went to a hospital in China that take care patience that hardly recover or dying, like Aids. Government put them away from city. I saw some patiences fight very hard to recover and be better. My handphone ring, ring and ring very often the few days about work. I feel confuse and nut to the inside and outside of these 2 worlds. When i want to leave, my friends ask whether i can stay, this is so hard.C WLhttp://belvi.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-14106642929702483752008-05-16T17:17:38.000+08:002008-05-16T17:17:38.000+08:00是咯,只能尽力。是咯,只能尽力。Hor juniorhttp://horjunior.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-84409646079299506622008-05-16T16:42:26.000+08:002008-05-16T16:42:26.000+08:00horjunior, 是啊。自己的事真的没人能帮啊。只是,有人诉苦好过没有。就好像有你陪伴着那个女的...horjunior, 是啊。自己的事真的没人能帮啊。只是,有人诉苦好过没有。就好像有你陪伴着那个女的朋友,给她建立性的开导,好过没有。Emily QQhttp://qing47.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-2274520876974443162008-05-16T14:56:50.000+08:002008-05-16T14:56:50.000+08:00这个我就有点意见了,
曾经有位女朋友在她男友提出分手直到真正的分手的那段漫长路就是我陪着她走过;
不...这个我就有点意见了,<br />曾经有位女朋友在她男友提出分手直到真正的分手的那段漫长路就是我陪着她走过;<br />不管何时何地她都会忽然把话题转去“她跟他”之间关系的探讨。<br />无论我怎样重复那些疗伤的话好像都没效咧。<br />所以我始终觉得自己要懂得疗伤才是上策。^_^Hor juniorhttp://horjunior.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-25740577531327401862008-05-16T13:56:27.000+08:002008-05-16T13:56:27.000+08:00我是说,希望一天过一天而天天快乐,开心 :)我是说,希望一天过一天而天天快乐,开心 :)Emily QQhttp://qing47.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-10955444601497164492008-05-16T13:11:11.000+08:002008-05-16T13:11:11.000+08:00希望在人間...希望在人間...ang clhttp://clang13.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-91963708457811925042008-05-16T13:05:53.000+08:002008-05-16T13:05:53.000+08:00我很敬佩你老师的研究愿望,希望病人能因为他而有希望。我很敬佩你老师的研究愿望,希望病人能因为他而有希望。Emily QQhttp://qing47.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-5491330607892619712008-05-16T13:03:45.000+08:002008-05-16T13:03:45.000+08:00中文有一句話:醫者父母心。這樣的醫生,現代的社會,不知道有沒有。生病除了生理不健康,心理其實也不舒服...中文有一句話:醫者父母心。這樣的醫生,現代的社會,不知道有沒有。生病除了生理不健康,心理其實也不舒服。我老師在做的研究,就是希望我們能夠照顧到病人,尤其是末期病人的身心靈狀況。ang clhttp://clang13.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-52394662162442000052008-05-16T12:58:41.000+08:002008-05-16T12:58:41.000+08:00你想像如果是在以醫院,一天有幾組人來看你的話,你就得重複幾次故事。生病是和身體有關的事,不是心理的,...你想像如果是在以醫院,一天有幾組人來看你的話,你就得重複幾次故事。生病是和身體有關的事,不是心理的,所以多說也不一定會好。<br /><br />但是,如果是失戀或其他事的話,說多了可能就有療傷的作用。:pang clhttp://clang13.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-18836658579657484952008-05-16T12:24:11.000+08:002008-05-16T12:24:11.000+08:00是啊。每次要去看医生,自己还要准备一个合理的‘台词’,好让我自己去了医生那里,不会吞吞吐吐,前后不搭...是啊。每次要去看医生,自己还要准备一个合理的‘台词’,好让我自己去了医生那里,不会吞吞吐吐,前后不搭配。我最气的就是这个。有时,我丈夫还会问我,“等下你知道要跟医生讲什么吗?” 那时,我就很气很气。又不是去面试,是生病,要医生的consulatation和药。这里,如果我们不会清楚的解说自己的病情与状况,他们就会有原有的印象,就是华人英文差,连自己的病况都不能清楚的表达,意思也就是说我们表达能力差。<br />有时真的在那时不舒服时,很懒惰说得很详细,虽然表面的当然会告诉医生。Emily QQhttp://qing47.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3261052335869187859.post-38991879239388803862008-05-16T10:59:29.000+08:002008-05-16T10:59:29.000+08:00这是千真万确的,
有时生病时真的是无法形容;
所以我通常都会尽量不告诉人家我生病了。
身体的病痛已经...这是千真万确的,<br />有时生病时真的是无法形容;<br />所以我通常都会尽量不告诉人家我生病了。<br />身体的病痛已经让人很累了,<br />这个时候还得思考怎样形容自己的情况;<br />那真的是很累的一件事。Hor juniorhttp://horjunior.multiply.comnoreply@blogger.com